Gender As Culture
I identify as male, with he/him pronouns, a big ole beard, hetero-appearing, with a cross-gender marriage. The little necromancer gnome that I play, she’s a little lady. So, if I want to play her well, how do I do it? If I want her to read as feminine, with a more feminine communication style, language choices, gestures, and performance, how can I best accomplish that to make for a convincing character for my DM and my fellow PCs? Theorist and scholar Deborah Tannen might suggest that I think about the differences between my typically masculine communication style and the style of my female gnome as essentially different cultures of communication. To Tannen, and other subscribers of the theory of Genderlect Styles , male and female communication is perhaps best understood as cross-cultural communication. (“Genderlect” is wordplay based on a linguistic dialect.) The gender differences Tannen observed in her studies pointed her toward very early socialization of masculine and fe...